Homosexualmisia: The Hatred of Homosexuals | Al Stefanelli

Homosexualmisia: The Hatred of Homosexuals | Al Stefanelli.

The result of this cycle of hatred is a suicide rate about seven times higher than that of heterosexual youth. Sometimes, bigots actually try to prevent intervention by teachers in the schools. Often, their ignorance causes them to believe that somehow homosexuality is an infectious disease that their own children might “catch.””


Another FANTASTIC post from Al Stefanelli of FTB.

Saudi Arabia’s ‘morality queen’.

“Meet Zainab al-Khatam, the winner of Saudi Arabia’s second annual pageant celebrating “spiritual and filial beauty”. Each contestant reportedly underwent training in “psychology, culture and law in Islam; family relations, public rights, social skills, health knowledge, volunteering … as well as cosmetics””  Nesrine Malik – guardian.co.uk,


Map of Saudi Arabia

Map of Saudi Arabia


The Saudi ‘inner beauty’ contest, really is nothing but a veiled celebration of female submission.  It was set up last year and does more than merely imply criticism of western pageants but encourages the warped view of feminine subservience as a virtue.  This is but one of many nations which conditions women to think of their circumstances in terms of positive attributes and in an “I can bear more oppression and subjugation than the others” and they do this not behind a mask of religious dogma but because of that dogma.  In a ‘world’ where any form of female vanity is not only disapproved of but punished severely, the mind boggles as to what the organisers of those ‘women’s groups’ were thinking when this plan was conceived.  It does nothing but cow-tow to the patriarchal Islamic authority.  These women have been forcibly conditioned to accept their circumstances by forbidding them access to any alternatives.

“This year’s winner is a blind 24-year-old woman who had managed to exhibit superlative “respect for her family, parents and society” – by staying at home after she had finished her studies, in order to take care of her family. She suffered in dignity and accepted her lot, her martyrdom becoming all the more poignant because of her disability. She is a stark contrast to another Saudi woman, Samar Badawi, who was sent to jail for disobeying her father.”


Muslim women

'Spirit of compliance' – female submission is nothing to celebrate. Photograph: Mahmud Hams/AFP/Getty Images


“Al-sutra” is an approbative term meaning to cover or conceal in order to preserve dignity and is one of the most highly prized and pernicious values in Sudanese society. It applies to both men and women and involves summoning up one’s reserves of strength and endurance.  It requires that both men and women put up with all hardships in silence.   If somebody in your family wrongs you, then you bear it.  You do not chase family members who owe you money.  More importantly, the misery of an unhappy marriage is to be kept between that couple.  The ability to be seen as a doormat to the world is deemed a sign of good breeding in women and thus the burden of sutra is all the heavier for them.

“This is by no means exclusive to Sudanese or Arab societies. It is a hallmark of conservatism and slavery to traditional values. Lady Chatterley and Out of Africa’s Isak Dinesen were both ostracised for not maintaining a stiff upper lip, and there is a universal human regard for martyrdom and comely suffering victims.


Khadra al-Mubarak, left, showing potential contestants brochures of the _Miss Beautiful Morals_ contest at her office in Safwa in the eastern province, Saudi Arabia, Tuesday, May 5, 2009.

Khadra al-Mubarak, left, showing potential contestants brochures of the _Miss Beautiful Morals_ contest at her office in Safwa in the eastern province, Saudi Arabia, Tuesday, May 5, 2009.


It has been told that women hold informal contests of their own in which the prize may be marriage to an eligible bachelor who has heard through the female grapevine that the winning candidate dropped out of school to take care of her ailing mother, or willingly ‘gave away‘ her inheritance to build her family a new home. These are not feats of selflessness, but dis-empowering.   These women have been conditioned to be compliant, ensuring that no matter how far afield the body travels, the mind is subjugated.  According to Islamic law, daughters are entitled to only half of the inheritance of their brothers  (Qur’an 4:11).  If there are only daughters, more than two should share 2/3 between them but if there is one then she is only entitled to half of what is left after bequests and debts are paid.

“Unlike others conned into suffering in silence in order to score social brownie points, she realised that in deliberately embracing her position, she transcended it.”

What they’re looking for in the quest for “Miss Beautiful Morals” is the contestant who shows the most devotion and respect for her parents.  The women, who despite great hardship can revel in her suffering with what can almost be described as euphoria due to what that suffering represents.  Their suffering and subjugation may be noticed but not lamented.  But doesn’t this pride in their ability to lay down and be their family’s doormat, without complaint, verge on vanity?  (Qur’an 4:36)


Veiled women shop at al-Zall souk in downtown Riyadh Saudi Arabia

Veiled women in downtown Riyadh, Saudi Arabia


Islam is possibly the most inhuman(e) of the three Abrahamic religions. It is geared to favour men in every aspect. The Qur’an is, in a large part (Chapter 4 is a fair example.), designated to the repression and subjugation of their women.  This includes instructions to beat rebellious and disobedient wives (Qur’an 4:35), a promise of reward for those who die as martyrs (4:74-76), how to deal with unbelievers who; “would dearly like you to reject faith, as they have done, to be like them. So do not take them as allies until they migrate [to Medina] for god’s cause.  If they turn [on you] then seize and kill them wherever you encounter them.  Take none of them as an ally or supporter…We give you clear authority against such people.“, and condemning those who do not ‘commit themselves and their possessions to striving in God’s way‘ as deficient and beneath those who do (Qur’an 4:89-91, 115).   This contest does nothing more than legitimise the religious oppression of women.  Rather than celebrate this contest we should mourn it as it shows exactly how deeply their inculcation has gone.

“Zainab’s morals may be beautiful, but society’s reasons for celebrating them are very ugly indeed.”


Oppression is….

I am taking part in a campaigning on Facebook to get the site “It’s not Rape…It’s surprise sex!”  removed.  This invovles getting as many people as possible to report the group as offensive and write into Facebook moderators quoting their own rules.  Please take the time to view the comments even if you choose not to join in.  While I appreciate dark humour and value a good joke as much as anybody, there are certain thins that are strictly off-limits and subjects that will never be funny.  I read a case on Women’s Rights at change.Org, where a 19-year-old was raped at gunpoint and robbed and to add insult to injury, she was charged with theft herself by the investigating officer, on the grounds that she refused to accept rape counselling and did not press the panic button.  This was not in some Middle-Eastern backwater where ‘civilisation’ has not yet caught up with reality, this happened in Pennsylvania.  While groups and people continue to trivialise rape and blame the victims, this situation will happen again and again.

Carmen Miles, one of the other members of the group, posted this on the group wall and I felt it deserved to be shared. with more than the members of one Facebook group.

Oppression is…

when an Australian sex therapist forces her female patients into submitting to their husband’s sexual desires through guilt and coercion. (http://hoydenabouttown.com/20090301.3917/quickhit-bettina-arndt-rape-cheerleader/)

Oppression is…

when an Australian judge dismisses a case of anal rape with a bottle as persuasion involving “rougher than usual handling”. (http://www.greenleft.org.au/node/4808)

Oppression is

when men in Afghanistan are permitted to deny their wives food and water if t they refuse their sexual advances. (http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2009/aug/14/afghanistan-womens-rights-rape)

Oppression is…

when the murder of rape victims is still an acceptable way to restore honour to families. (http://www.moriel.org/articles/discernment/islam_alert/honour_killing_of_rape_victims.htm)

Oppression is...

Not asking for a site to be removed when it potentially trivialises a terrible crime, is triggering
for victims and a haven for cyber-bullies.

This brings me to my next point.  The group itself has been targeted by people who view US as an oppression site, claim that we are hypocrites and that OUR page should be removed because they find it offensive.  This really makes the mind boggle about how these people think.  We are not trying to ban free speech.  We are not trivialising violent acts against others – that is what we are trying to get Facebook to take responsibility for.  We are not saying that ALL dark humour is wrong and I am sure that most reasonable people realise, that for society to function smoothly, there needs to be a set of rules, whether set down or not, that we all stick to.  Whether we agree with them all or not is an issue for debate and something we are perfectly qualified to discuss among ourselves.  It’s the difference between what is right and wrong and no authority is needed on that front.  All we need is our conscience, both public and individual to know this.  There are unspoken rules of decency and conduct, and trivialising violent crime while at the same time refusing to acknowledge the true motivations of that violence, is to ignore reality.  It paints a gloss of  “Oh well, it hasn’t happened to me or mine, so its fair game to laugh at.” over the whole issue of the legal system’s treatment of reported rape cases.

Discussion of this sort over the internet is not futile, as it brings together the people who would not have otherwise met. It allows the raising of  public awareness on a worldwide scene, and it those who have a voice to speak up for those who do not. It grants access to information and points us in the direction of sources that would not have otherwise occurred to us.  We play our part in a more open world community, just by making a contribution to the discussion.  On-line discussion forums allow ideas to change through a natural progression of examination and debate. It is not the decent thing to ignore or keep silent about social injustice.  Abdication from the process will only protect that person for a tiny amount of time because what happens when those who have done their three-wise-monkey act experience the same issues they have laughed at, trivialised and dismissed?  If they or their loved ones became one of those of whom groups like ours are trying to speak up for?  Would the subject still be so jocular to them?   Will our stance that the groups who laugh and sneer and are offended by our telling them they are wrong, still be so offensive to them? I very much doubt it. To quote a friend of mine, people who are ‘never wrong’, never learn. If they say they wouldn’t care then they are either lying to avoid admitting that they are wrong, or we should think very carefully about whether we really want to associate with such people.

As I said before; there are some things which are just not funny, and rape is one of them.  Our request for the removal of sites that trivialise violent crime is not oppression.  Our request is not inciting violence.  Nobody’s rights are being abused when this sort of offensive content is rightfully complained about and removed.  Is it repression of a rapist to prevent them from committing such horrific acts again?  The silencing of hundreds of abused children and their families, in order to protect the reputations of both their abusers and the catholic church WAS oppression. They were prevented from speaking out and those who complain that we, as a group, are offensive and trying to ‘prevent freedom of speech’ ARE guilty of the same complacent attitude to the victims of such crimes.